Comments on: My Fiancee decided to postpone the wedding what do you think? http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/ Perfect Ideas, For Perfect Wedding Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:01:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: nanny http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-51 nanny Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:17:43 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-51 I think it is best that if he is not sure now, that it is better to wait. It shows maturity on his part; maybe he just couldn't handle the bridezillaness of it all.... I think it is best that if he is not sure now, that it is better to wait. It shows maturity on his part; maybe he just couldn’t handle the bridezillaness of it all….

]]> By: sparkleythings_4you http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-50 sparkleythings_4you Fri, 21 Nov 2008 16:25:23 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-50 My b/f and I have also recently postponed our wedding to allow him to take a course that will progress his career and the stress of studying and taking exams was more than enough for him to cope with. I would suggest taking some time to talk with your b/f, rather than arguing as that does not solve anything. Discuss exactly what it was that causing the arguments, perhaps he needed a more active role in planning the wedding so he felt involved and not just a "tourist". Give it a few months for the dust to settle, and then see how the land lies, perhaps you will be able to re-book before too long. My b/f and I have also recently postponed our wedding to allow him to take a course that will progress his career and the stress of studying and taking exams was more than enough for him to cope with. I would suggest taking some time to talk with your b/f, rather than arguing as that does not solve anything. Discuss exactly what it was that causing the arguments, perhaps he needed a more active role in planning the wedding so he felt involved and not just a “tourist”. Give it a few months for the dust to settle, and then see how the land lies, perhaps you will be able to re-book before too long.

]]> By: maigen_obx http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-49 maigen_obx Wed, 19 Nov 2008 09:08:38 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-49 Why would you WANT to marry a man who makes a major life decision without even consulting you? Why would you WANT to marry a man who makes a major life decision without even consulting you?

]]> By: stampadhesive http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-48 stampadhesive Mon, 17 Nov 2008 00:13:07 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-48 Keep the wedding date. Go to pre-marriage counsling. If it doesn't work out, make him pay for half of everything spent on the wedding (deposits and such.) Keep the wedding date. Go to pre-marriage counsling. If it doesn’t work out, make him pay for half of everything spent on the wedding (deposits and such.)

]]> By: Allie http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-47 Allie Thu, 13 Nov 2008 21:25:55 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-47 Well why is he speaking on your behalf about the postponement? I would ask what is going on, maybe he just has cold feet. I can imagine it is stressful, talk to him see what is really happening with him. Well why is he speaking on your behalf about the postponement? I would ask what is going on, maybe he just has cold feet. I can imagine it is stressful, talk to him see what is really happening with him.

]]> By: weddrev http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-46 weddrev Tue, 11 Nov 2008 04:10:32 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-46 Sit him down & talk with him, seriously. He may be having second thoughts because of the way you are handling the wedding stress. If this is how you handle this, how are you going to handle the stress of married life & children? You probably have him worried that he will be spending his life in a way he doesn't want to. He's wise in doing what he did. There have been many weddings that have not happened because of this very thing. You both might want to seek some counselling before continuing with your plans. Sit him down & talk with him, seriously.
He may be having second thoughts because of the way you are handling the wedding stress. If this is how you handle this, how are you going to handle the stress of married life & children? You probably have him worried that he will be spending his life in a way he doesn’t want to. He’s wise in doing what he did.
There have been many weddings that have not happened because of this very thing.

You both might want to seek some counselling before continuing with your plans.

]]> By: lemonnpuff http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-45 lemonnpuff Sun, 09 Nov 2008 01:35:41 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-45 sit back and think. What are you fighting about? Is it about the wedidng? Is it about living arrangements? Does he annoy you with his habits? Do you annoy him? Is it because you don't like each others friends and family? If you're fighting because of wedding details and money, then take a step back and ask yourself just how important that detail is that you are (or he is) fighting for. My husband and I had a clear set plan. We set out the ground rules early. No pink or purple. No Tails and Top Hats. He wanted a church wedding, I wanted outdoor, but I felt his religion trumped my love of trees. We either agreed on everything or we compramised. If someone was adament about a detail, then the other backed off and said okay. we had a beautiful, simple, fun, and flawless wedding. If you are fighting because of his habits or yours, then you need to sit down and think about how important it really is. Is it minor, like he leaves all the cuboards, drawers, and doors open like my beloved...or is it major, like he goes out drinking with the same girl who isn't you every weekend like my friends husband? Tell someone neutral about the fight and they will tell you straight up who the crazy one is. If you're fighting becuase of family, then suck it up, they're family. If you're fighting becuase of friends, then you both need to sit down and deal with it like grown ups or ditch the friends. He's forever, your college roomate may not be. pre-marital counseling is designed to sort all this out before the wedding. It may be helpful for you both to go see someone. We are christian, so we saw the Pastor who was marrying us. Just go talk to someone neutral. If the two of you are willing to communicate, compromise, be considerate of eachothers wants above your own, and have the same goals in life, then you are meant to be. If that isn't the case...then like the first girl said, better now than at the alter or after the kids. sit back and think. What are you fighting about? Is it about the wedidng? Is it about living arrangements? Does he annoy you with his habits? Do you annoy him? Is it because you don’t like each others friends and family?

If you’re fighting because of wedding details and money, then take a step back and ask yourself just how important that detail is that you are (or he is) fighting for. My husband and I had a clear set plan. We set out the ground rules early. No pink or purple. No Tails and Top Hats. He wanted a church wedding, I wanted outdoor, but I felt his religion trumped my love of trees. We either agreed on everything or we compramised. If someone was adament about a detail, then the other backed off and said okay. we had a beautiful, simple, fun, and flawless wedding.

If you are fighting because of his habits or yours, then you need to sit down and think about how important it really is. Is it minor, like he leaves all the cuboards, drawers, and doors open like my beloved…or is it major, like he goes out drinking with the same girl who isn’t you every weekend like my friends husband? Tell someone neutral about the fight and they will tell you straight up who the crazy one is.

If you’re fighting becuase of family, then suck it up, they’re family. If you’re fighting becuase of friends, then you both need to sit down and deal with it like grown ups or ditch the friends. He’s forever, your college roomate may not be.

pre-marital counseling is designed to sort all this out before the wedding. It may be helpful for you both to go see someone. We are christian, so we saw the Pastor who was marrying us. Just go talk to someone neutral. If the two of you are willing to communicate, compromise, be considerate of eachothers wants above your own, and have the same goals in life, then you are meant to be. If that isn’t the case…then like the first girl said, better now than at the alter or after the kids.

]]> By: holly s http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-44 holly s Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:11:15 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-44 I can understand you being stressed out from planning the wedding and that causing stress on your relationship, especially if he is not helping. But if you explain this to him, and you two had a very good relationship before, and he still wants to hold on the wedding, then I think this sounds like an excuse for him. Maybe talk to his parents, or his close friends to find out if there is something else going on. Hopefully it is just cold feet, but who knows why he is acting weird and putting off what is a special day for both of you. I can understand you being stressed out from planning the wedding and that causing stress on your relationship, especially if he is not helping. But if you explain this to him, and you two had a very good relationship before, and he still wants to hold on the wedding, then I think this sounds like an excuse for him. Maybe talk to his parents, or his close friends to find out if there is something else going on. Hopefully it is just cold feet, but who knows why he is acting weird and putting off what is a special day for both of you.

]]> By: prettycoolchick38 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-43 prettycoolchick38 Tue, 04 Nov 2008 23:49:40 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-43 Sounds like a case of" Frigid feet"He should have discussed this with you first.And since he didnt odds are if you were married he's be making other discisions without you.Better to lose him now than later .Take it from one who knows;divorce is no cake walk. You will find "mr Wonderful" keep looking! Sounds like a case of” Frigid feet”He should have discussed this with you first.And since he didnt odds are if you were married he’s be making other discisions without you.Better to lose him now than later .Take it from one who knows;divorce is no cake walk. You will find “mr Wonderful” keep looking!

]]> By: Kat http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-42 Kat Sun, 02 Nov 2008 04:31:27 +0000 http://www.myperfect-wedding.com/my-fiancee-decided-to-postpone-the-wedding-what-do-you-think/#comment-42 Maybe it will be good for you guys to work things out! I mean, if you are arguing now, marriage isn't likely to magically fix that! And I understand that planning a wedding is stressful, but so are many aspects of the married life! You have to be able to work together and get through stressful times without arguing too much. So it could be good to figure this out before you tie the knot! I mean, I am not saying you two might not be meant to be married, but maybe you guys just have a little bit of work to do first! Just be on your best behavior! Be a sweetie. Things will work out! Maybe it will be good for you guys to work things out! I mean, if you are arguing now, marriage isn’t likely to magically fix that! And I understand that planning a wedding is stressful, but so are many aspects of the married life! You have to be able to work together and get through stressful times without arguing too much. So it could be good to figure this out before you tie the knot! I mean, I am not saying you two might not be meant to be married, but maybe you guys just have a little bit of work to do first! Just be on your best behavior! Be a sweetie. Things will work out!

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