Holly Golightly asked:


I have a very different taste in wedding, I want a very small (justice of peace and 2 random witnesses) ceremony, and a private party after. I don’t want a huge bash where people you NEVER speak to feel obligated to come….just me, my husband and our families (minus future BIL and his GF!!) and CLOSE friends. By close, I mean ones we speak to, regularly. Really private. My feelings are pretty strong on this. My fiance agrees, and my parents could care less, as long as I am happy. Problem is my future in laws. MIL is bewildered, wants a grand church wedding, with everybody she knows there… I can’t fathom that. We can afford a big wedding so money is not it, it is all a matter of taste. His parents are needling and begging for a giant bash. How do we convey that this IS our perfect wedding? That what his mom is planning is our perfect nightmare! I already have issues with future BIL and his GF, don’t want any with the rest….Please help!! Thanks!
We are paying, but it is not money that motivated this choice. It is a preference. As far as family bringing guests, that goes against my feelings, it would be people I don’t know on a private day. I know it may be selfish of me. But I can’t shake this belief

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